How do you help someone that you know is hurting? How do you help someone when there is nothing you can really do to help them? There is nothing that I can directly do, except to be there. I can however provide the tools for this person to cope with the unpleasant part of the current situation. So I ordered a few things that I think might help. I'm hoping they help and that they are received with gratitude verses a chuckle. I guess we will see. I had always been against going and seeing a therapist, but during my first marriage I learned a whole lot about myself going and seeing one. It was then I realized they weren't all that bad, once I got comfortable enough to actually talk about things. Though I think if I had been more open to begin with about seeing someone I might have opened up a bit soon. Who knows though, that was quite a few years ago and I don't like to dwell on things that happened in the past. It's just a waste of time.
Life is good for the most part. I still struggle sometimes to find time for myself, and time with the hubby. With four kids here though it is something that I'm not surprised about. We do date night from time to time (when we can afford it), and I try and read when the baby naps (if I'm not busy doing other errand type things). I am happy, though I miss getting out of the house I don't miss it enough to try and change it. I'm hoping for warmer weather soon, because that will help ease that feeling. I'll get out and walk more, and Kaylee and I will be outside more during the day when she is awake. I love warm weather. There is just something about the sun that makes it so you have to smile.
Everyone is going to have different ideas of what is right for you, but ultimately you are the only one that gets to make the choices. The choice to smile or cry, to be happy or sad are all up to you. Other people can affect us, but we can't let what they feel overwhelm us because like your feelings, their feelings are their own. We are only responsible for what we can control. Unfortunately there are a lot of things in life that we can't control, especially if we are underage. We are completely dependent and at the mercy of our parents until we move out on our own. For some kids this is difficult more so for those forced to grow up too fast. Those kids struggle with the idea that although mentally they are older they are still not grown and can't be out on their own yet.
One day at a time, it's all we can do. Sometimes it's hard to slow down enough to deal with things that before we may not have had time to deal with. Things are better dealt with then ignored, that way we cope with the feelings instead of repressing them. Repressing only guarantees that they will come back and visit sometime in the future. For those that think they can make feelings go away, are only made out to be a fool when they find out they are wrong.
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